This week I have been preparing my lecture on relationships, what goes wrong with them and how to make them healthy for the uncommon knowledge hypnotherapy diploma 

Healthy relationships are such an important human basic need for all of us (although for some of us they are more important than for others) One thing I will be focusing on this Saturday with our budding hypnotherapists will be the importance of ‘love maps’

One of the reasons relationships go wrong is because partners start to feel misunderstood; as if their loved one no longer really knows them. Relationship research has shown that if you take an interest in your partner-know their hopes and ambitions, likes and dislikes, have listened to them and know who they like at work and these people by name etc then you have a good ‘map’ in your mind of your loved ones inner and outer life. If you can regularly express this knowledge to them you are displaying a healthy ‘love map’ which makes them feel cared about-valued.  This is very different from the ‘I’ve told you that already-you never listen to me’ scenario.

Somone I knew years ago was mortified when she told me her husband didn’t even know the name of the family dog or their son’s best friend. There are lots of stratagies to making relationships work, love maps is one but we’ll be exploring many others on the diploma this Weekend. Always an enjoyable section I’m looking forward to it.

Mark Tyrrell